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Monday, November 26, 2012

Step 2.5: When Attorney and Birth Parents (Don't) Meet

I really debated whether I should write this or not. If I painted a rosy picture of our adoption, I wouldn't be being completely honest with all of you. While I do choose to take an optimistic (as possible) approach to life, some things just can't always be sunny side up.

When I first spoke to our birth mom, my first impression was that she was a good person who knew her limits and was realistic about life. The more I've gotten to know her, the more I've gotten to know. She is a good person, she does know her limits, and she is realistic. However, the differences in our lives are extremely apparent.

Things that are important to me, are not a priority to her. I truly don't want this to turn into a post where I bash our birth mom, so I will just say that talking to her and making plans with her is frustrating.

For example:  I set up a meeting with our attorney, and it was rescheduled. Three times. We agreed on a time, and I was the only one who showed up. Phone calls are sporadic, and random. At best.

The communication disconnect is the most frustrating thing for me.

The other night when Joshua bought me the things to be miserable about book, he also bought me the book ''Baby, We Were Meant for Each Other'' by Scott Simon and one of the first pages said this:
 And that is really all there is to say about it.

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  1. Hang in there. I am sure this isn't easy for you. It is obvious you have different priorities and I think yours are very valid. Your concerns are appropriate and I truly hope everything works out. You have a blog friend here if you need to chat :)

    1. Thank you, Melanie! I appreciate that. I'm loving following along with your journey. :)

  2. {Melinda} I am so sorry you are going through this. Bringing kids into the family -- either by birth or adoption -- is challenging and painful. But I'm sure the adoption process can make you feel like so many more things are out of your control. Saying a prayer for you right now for peace and patience and that your little one will be in your arms soon. :)

    Thanks so much for stopping by on our SITS Day!

    1. Thank you so much for your prayers! We will make it through this. :)



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