I plan to follow this up with an AB (after birth) post. This one is obviously BB (before baby) and I want to get out there everything I don't understand about life after birth.
Your life is over.
Obviously, people aren't saying those exact words, oh wait, yes they are. For some reason everyone thinks our life as we know it is over. I suppose it is, in the way that we aren't going to have the free time that we do now. We won't be able to go out to bars every weekend, even though I can't even tell you the last time I went to a bar, as that has never been how we've chosen to spend out time.
Are you sure you want kids?
This comes from people with three kids and it makes me want to hug their children, and adopt them too. I should include that I work with all men, and they're the ones who say this to me.
You'll never see your friends again.
Why not? Our friends have kids. We see them. My parents have kids. We see them. The people who state this very statement have kids.
Your marriage will never be the same.
I suppose I can get on board with this. I agree that our marriage won't be the same, but I think it will change for the better. I know some people think that having a child can fix the problems in their marriage. I'm not there at all. What I'm saying is that if we can make it through infertility together, I think we can make it through anything.
Your Xbox time is over.
I don't have Xbox time anyway, but Josh does, so this comment comes from his friends. He told me that the other night he was playing and someone he was playing with told him that his Xbox time is over.
I will become Josh's manager.
This one also comes from his friends. Unless I'm going to undergo a major personality transplant, I don't see how this one is true. My mom always says that I let Josh get away with everything. She's exaggerating of course (I think), but I am pretty laid back. Truth is, there is very little that he does that bothers me. We always discuss changes before he springs them on me. We may not always agree before it happens, but I trust him, and everything always turns out alright (even the time I had to help his dog deliver her puppies). We have had one discussion where I pointed out everything I've been laid back about and explained that the issue at hand is one I will not waver on. He respected that, and we're fine. I have no desire to manage my husband, and I don't see how this would change after the baby comes. We're both happier this way.