I started a post on the Knot yesterday asking why people think that a couple should live together before marriage. A lot of people gave legitimate reasons that I can understand, such as you need to get to know each other's habits and that you need to understand what its like to spend every single moment with someone. Which, ok. I get that. And I get that after marriage, your relationship is different. No one seems to be able to explain how, but I understand the difference because I think we were different just after we got engaged (good, not bad). What I don't get, which, I'm not trying to talk badly about this person, but one girl commented that you wouldn't buy a car without test driving it first. While that makes sense, I would like to think that the past five years could be considered somewhat of a "test-drive". I know Josh's habits. I know that he can be messy and he doesn't use a dresser. But none of those minor things are going to stop me from marrying him, or even make me divorce him. They are his habits, but they are also him. It is part of who he is, and even if I end up hating the way he does dishes, I'll still love him.
We discussed this a few nights ago and we hope we're not being really naive, but we think we'll be fine. We know we're going to fight, thats just us, but it's not going to be any deal breaker. It worked for my parents.
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